Carry on the Legacy

It is so hard to go on after the death of a child. I have talked with many people who have lost children and I have not met one yet who does not want to talk about their child. I have also noticed that most of these parents always have memories of great things that their child has done in their lives. We tend to focus on our children's most positive attributes. What better way of healing than to take on a project that speaks to who they were as a person.  We could take up a hobby they enjoyed in their honor. We can volunteer for a cause they supported. We can finds ways to be kind to others in their honor if that was a quality they brought to the world. I think anything that we can do to continue their legacy in the world helps us heal and also brings us closer to them. I believe the more we heal the more they smile down upon us. I think it makes them sad to see us so miserable. Yes it is okay and even necessary to cry and grieve their loss, but we don't want to stay there forever because that is not what they would want. They would want you to continue on with the life they began, living out their legacy.