Blessed are they who mourn

In his Sermon on the Mount, Jesus is quoted as saying "Blessed are they who mourn, for they will be comforted." I think people in early grief have the initial response of How? followed closely by when? We are unable to see how there is any way one could be comforted in losing their child. We are also in terrible pain and we just want it to go away. I speak from experience when I say this initial grief is probably the worst thing that you could ever face in your life. With help, we can learn ways to progress through the pain, and then we must make a decision. If we choose to continue to live in the horror of the past, we will never find the comfort of which Jesus spoke. A person who chooses a life of unhappiness, will tend to only see things that justify their unhappiness, and unfortunately will never find happiness again until they are able to change their mind set. If however we are able to find meaning or a purpose in our lives to live in honor of our child, then we can begin to heal.  Nietzche is quoted as saying "He who has a why to live can bear with almost any how." If we are able to discover that spark of light within us and use that spark to find ways to honor the memories and actions of our child, we will begin to find the comfort and a new perspective on how we choose to live the rest of our lives.