I read this today in a book written by Elizabeth Lesser and I thought it beautifully described later grief.
"Let your grief be as full of joy as it is of sorrow. Let it be proof of how much you've loved, how deeply you've allowed life to live in you, how wide the river of your heart has become. Every experience in which you love and lose is excellent practice for learning to face change and to let go. Instead of turning away from love so as not to invite loss, love fully, and learn to grieve. I have discovered those that can grieve loss are those who can love life."