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The Journey from Despair to Hope

Eyes Cannot See

6/13/2021

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Shakespeare is quoted as saying: Nothing is either good or bad but thinking makes it so. I don't think sighted people realize how much they take their sight for granted. Actually we tend to take all of our physical senses for granted until one is taken from us. What do we do when one or more of our senses are suddenly or over time taken away from us. At first we are probably very depressed and don't know what to do? How can we leave without these senses that we have become to rely upon for our happiness? What eventually happens is as we learn to heal. We find ways to adapt and some of our remaining senses become more acute. It is much the same with losing a child. At first the pain seems unbearable, but eventually we make the decision to enhance our other senses. Just because we cannot physically see them with our eyes doesn't mean they are gone, we just learn to see them with the eyes of our heart rather than our physical eyes.  We would rather hear their voice with our ears, but now we hear their voice in sharing the memories we had with them. We would rather feel their physical touch, but when we think about them or receive signs from them that send tinglings down our spine and body, know that is your child reaching out to hug you. Even writing this now I can feel Kaitlyn's presence inspiring me to write these words. I know it is so difficult to get through our human emotions, but our love for our children never dies it just changes form.  It is up to us to learn how to be still, and find time to grieve, but also find time for happiness. I believe our children are happiest when we are happy. When we practice trying to see life through the eyes of the heart, it is then we are able to feel our children's presence around us cheering us on.
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Susan Posada link
9/23/2021 09:24:01 am

Jim this is beautiful . It has been hard for me to describe how I have come to experience my son on the other side. All of my senses long for him so deeply. I can't even describe the pain. The only thing I take, in that truly brings one of my human senses alive, is the smell of his unwashed clothes. Its been 14 months and they still smell like him. I wonder how long they will hold the smell, I love that smell of "boy," my son. I hope it lasts forever. I am grateful to my son that he shows me how to experience him in a new way, using a part of my brain I never new existed, feeling his energy in my body in a way I had not known existed, seeing signs that I never thought could be real, but there is no other explanation than it is Nicholas. No human being can make these things happen so he is the only explanation.
I am so grateful that he is here, but nothing will replace his human form that we could hold for the 19 years of his short life. I miss him so much!

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    My insights and observations encountered on my grief journey after the unexpected death of my 16 year old daughter. It is my hope that other parents traveling this painful road might be able to find some hope and comfort here for their grief journeys.My My insights and My insights and observations encountered on my grief journey after the unexpected death of my 16 year old daughter. It is my hope that other parents traveling this painful road might be able to find some hope and comfort here for their grief journeys. encountered on my grief journey after the unexpected death of my 16 year old daughter. It is my hope that other parents traveling this painful road might be able to find some hope and comfort here for their grief journeys. and observations encountered on my grief journey after the unexpected death of my 16 year old daughter. It is my hope that other parents traveling this painful road might be able to find some hope and comfort here for their grief journeys.

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