grief is necessary

As I have said before, grief is a natural and necessary response to losing anyone that you love. Everyone grieves differently and at their own pace. Nobody has the right to tell you that you need to get over it. You will never get over it. Saying that I do think that we can heal from this tragedy. I think we get to a point in grieving that we need to realize that holding on so tightly to our grief is counter productive for us. Holding on so tightly to our grief eventually only adds to our misery and will not bring our child back no matter how much we want it to. It will only serve to continue to prevent us from healing which in some ways does not honor the memory of our children who would want us to heal and not be miserable for the rest of our lives. ​