Living in the present

 When we experience great loss, we obviously initially suffer great pain. There is no avoiding it. We must take our time to adjust to life without our child that we loved so much. We learn in our grieving that like life, grief is not orderly. It is unpredictable. At some point though, if we continue to resist the pain of grief and try to control life, we will continue to suffer. At some point we have to choose to try to live in the present moment, while letting go of the past and trying not to control the future. Remembering that when we resist our suffering will persist.