The Worst Pain

I can think of nothing more painful in life than losing a child. It is a crushing pain that can take your breath away. If we are to heal from this traumatic event, we must learn to gently lean into the pain of grief. We can;t avoid it or try to runaway from it. It will catch up to you and like a wound that gets infected cause you more pain and suffering.This process can not be rushed and each individual will grieve differently. There is not a right way or wrong way to grieve. Do whatever works for you and helps you to begin to feel a little better. As you begin to lean into the pain of grief, over time you will begin to feel a softening of the intensity of the grief. At  the beginning, you will feel that the pain of grief is constant, but as you sit with it you will begin to notice brief periods were you notice gaps in the severity of the pain. You will begin to notice a softening of yourself, where things that used to frustrate or anger you don't seem to matter as much as they used to. You began to develop a deeper appreciation of life, and become more empathetic person. What does seem to frustrate you more is the trivial things that other people still feel are vital and you realize in the larger scope of things they really are not worth worrying about. You know how precious and fragile life can be, and you need to spend more time appreciating it because it can change in an instant.